Hi @Helpless,   I'm a parent like you with a son who has been through hell and is coming out of it. Obviously you want to get some professional advice, but as a parent I would be worried about drugs if the change happened really quickly. Otherwise crying and spending too much time in his room might be a mental health issue. Maybe he is avoiding something (life?) or maybe he is depressed (my son did that when he was depressed). Either way it sounds like he needs help quickly.   I found the school counsellors were OK for minor problems (especially school related) and for flagging problems. In our experience they could not provide the support our son needed (although they tried). They can also have an obligation to the school as well as the student, and this can become a conflict of interest (which not all of them handle well).   I'd start with a visit to your G.P. If he won't go then go on his behalf and have a chat about options with the Dr. I would tell my son if I did that so he knows what is going on.   Take care of yourself, it is terribly hard work. Cheers ... View more