hi @coffeedout , I can understand why you're feeling lost  - that's a really tricky situation with your daughter. And as with most things, there's no easy answer!    As @taokat has suggested, speaking to the school could be a good next step - to try to understand what's going on a bit more before making a decision.  It sounds like you and your partner are working this through together, and have your daughter's wellbeing at the forefront. I know it can feel like you're being a failure, but please know that there is no parent that feels they are doing a perfect job. No matter how "good" of a parent you are, life is complex and unpredictable complications situations like this one will come regardless unfortunately!   I'd also recommend having  a look through some of our resources and keep engaged on the forum - other parents here have great insight and support to offer.  ... View more