We recently discover my daughter (12) has been self harming. We've been to the gp and have an appointment with camhs. Today we were supposed to be going shopping to look at alternative coping resources (journals, relaxation books etc). It was a disaster. Even my attempts at regular chat just kept getting shut down. When we got home I gave her her things and told her I wasn't going to have the chat with her today (she only wants us to check in about it twice a week, not in the car) and I burst into tears. I told her she wasn't the only one who has feelings. Prior to today I have been trying so hard to keep communication open, focus on connection and empathy. I feel like I failed her today and I am really struggling with my own reaction today. I am going to access EAP through work. I just feel like I am getting no where. Any advice would be so welcome. ... View more