Okay, coming clean right away so I don't waste anyone's time- I'm not actually a parent. I'm in the 8th grade, but I am very curious on the view of other parents. Difference has always been a topic I enjoyed, HOWEVER, I want to know if all parents do this and if they mean well-   So, I'm a 13 year old girl who is currently just working hard to have my dream job- (Veterinary medicine if you're curious.) I have been planning out my future for myself on a broad scale of time, but my point is that I've been so focused on career and what I wanted to do before getting married per say. (Run a clinic, or at least work at a good one, own certain animals, etc, etc..) And, I am the younger sibling. My brother is 15 years old, but he does not care for school. He plans to be a bum under my parent's roof, and I've noticed a change in their behaviour. They've started to pull the grandparent card.    And I know it's normal for parents to look forward to be grandparents, but I want to say that they've gone too far now. I've never had the best relationship with them, so I've spent a lot of alone time and I've figured most things out (About my body- periods) without their help since we constantly argue and fight. Most of that fight comes because they tell me not to 'act like (big brother)' when I'm upset.    Problem came to mind yesterday when I took a walk around the neighbourhood with them, and they pointed to a house. "Look! We call that (My name)'s house." My mom said. When I asked why, she said- "Because it has a nice view, and it's only a five minute walk from me so you can give me your kids everyday!" Her comment ticked me off.    It's been ticking me off when she said that for the past few years, she constantly said- "No, you can move out when you're married." I've rolled my eyes at that comment, but I took this one seriously- "Fine! Don't worry about it, move out, but just give me your kids, I'll take them. I'll take them everyday then you can have them on sundays." Or stuff like that.   And I'm the type to overthink things, so it scares me, and it scares me for the future. I constantly think about it, and being hot headed I think- "What if she'll just grab them from the yard? What if she gets them to call HER mom? What if spouse is home? What if I want family time? What if spouse's mom is looking after them?" I come from a family where it's your parent's RIGHT to raise grandkids, but I'm VERY ticked. I'm ripping my hair out when she says this, and I've told her multiple times to stop, and how uncomfortable I am, but she tells me not to be sensitive and that she's my mom and nothing's to hide from her. But I want something like this to go my way, and if I object then she cries and says that she robbed my grandma (Her mom, who has unfortunately passed when she was a year or two older than me.) Of the chance to raise me and such.    Do other parents do this? Is this some kind of red flag? Am I overreacting?    Feel free to share your views if you have no advice.   Thanks, Moody Teen ... View more