1.My kids are 20, 19 and 17. They make me laugh at the supper table when we are talking about things that interest them. The youngest is into K-pop music and all things Korean and she tells us a "Korean factoid of the day" 2. My husband and I take a daily walk together to keep stress down. 3. What led you to ReachOut Parents today? I am desperate for help for my middle daughter. 4. Top tip for parents with kids entering teen years is to hold off as long as possible before allowing a smart phone. 5. The best thing about weekends is having no errands to run.
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My 19 year old daughter was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, ADHD-inattentive type and social anxiety following a suicide attempt when she was 15. She was put on drugs and managed to attend school most of the time and she graduated from high school. She started university in the fall but was not engaged and was not making friends and was not keeping connnections with her high school friends. She dropped out in March.
Since March she has spent most of her time in her bedroom lying down in bed reading or watching tv programs. She is not registered for school, she does not have a job, she does do any volunteer work. She occasionally will help around the house if I ask specifically for her to do things that pertain to her, ie. clear up the supper dishes (after I have cooked) and put your dirty or clean laundry away.
I don't know how to get her to re-engage with the world and with life. She has let all her social connections go stale and she is embarrassed to have dropped out of school and to not have a plan but I think she is also afraid to start a new program at a new school and to not enjoy that either. How can you enjoy a program when you are depressed? She says she is afraid to get a job because she is afraid of not showing up to work and letting her employer down. That is what happened last year.
How can I get her to accept help or to follow through on anything or to just get back into life?
She is not self-harming and she is not speaking about suicide.
I'm very scared for her future. What can I do? We are in Canada.
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