Hi everyone I've not posted before but was hoping someone would be able to give me some advice concerning my 19 year old son. I'm a married, 51-year-old woman with an only child of 19 (nearly).  I was unable to have children due to early menopause but through IVF I had a beautiful baby boy.  I have loved him with all my heart and that will never change but something has gone wrong over the last few years.   My boy is fantastic in so many ways, he has worked since he was 16, doesn't smoke and drinks only moderately.  He saves money, he takes care of his girlfriend who I know he loves a lot and is very good at being responsible, however, when it comes to me he is hard work... he is rude, disrespectful, sullen and impatient with me.  He makes me feel that everything I do or say is wrong or stupid and it really is getting me down.  We argue whenever we speak almost, I just don't know what to do to make things better.  He has no empathy towards me and I find it very difficult to come to terms with how I raised him, surrounded by doting parents to this disdain.     I'm pretty tolerant, I don't ask much of him as he works really hard, he pays me 25.00 a week for his keep and he is fine with everyone else although he can be impatient with them and judgemental at times.   I am hard of hearing, and work has been a bit hit and miss lately and this annoys him and will often say things like, ''well you're at home all day so you do it' or 'why should I do it when you're at home all day' and stuff like that.  His dad works hard too, and they don't see much of each other but that's just how things are.  He has a new girl who we have just found out is pregnant, we took it well when they told us although I got in trouble for being happy about it and posting it on my facebook page, oops, (i did apologise).    I just want a good relationship with my son and to stop being so irritating to him so that we can get along better.   Anyone have any advice? ... View more