A bit of a long one but so desperate for advice :( i have 4 children, 3 are extremely busy, strong willed and wild at the best! I have one child who is an absolute dream! my husband works away during the week and I'm left to raise the children, when I ask for his help on the discipline front, he shrugs his shoulders and says what do you want me to do! Best described politely as a wet rag that feels like a lodger is staying on the weekend! my eldest is 15 he has always wanted to run before he can walk, extremely intelligent and always making, building things or trying to find a way to make a fast buck! though now I have discovered he is using marijuana :( after confronting him and crying and shouting etc I am exhausted, fearful, of the impact it will have on his siblings and blatant lying that it has stopped when evidently it has not!!!!! If any of you have smelt weed you will know it's not a smell you can easily disguise! He has just sat important exams in school and his grades have been falling. He hangs around with rough people, he seems to be attracted to bad eggs!!!!! now he is quite open with another family member about a friend of his whose uncle is a dealer and has an expensive car etc from the proceeds of drug crime. I am absolutely beside myself that he will be drawn into this life. He is a risk taker and seems to be attracted to mischief :( and this family member has told me he seemed super excited about how much money can be made! i want to be able to set some rules to say that if he is caught by police that I will not support him, bail him out or visit him in jail..... if he chooses this life then he's on his own :( I have watched my sister go through hell with her son who ended up a heroin addict :( I don't think I have the constitution to deal, with the drama that she has. any advise would be great fully relieved.
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