I know this site is supposed to be for parents of teenagers, but I feel as though my 20 year old is still at that stage even though he is officially an adult. he is using a lot of marijuana at the moment.  Every day and often more than once a day. He had a place at university overseas but was sent home when he was caught dealing to fellow students.  He says the money was so easy he couldn't turn it down. It impacted on his relationship wth his girlfriend as they could never go anywhere as he was always 'on call' for buyers. His grades slipped and his soccer skills also decreased. when he told us he had been kicked out of uni, he said he knew we would be disappointed. We welcomed him home and said that everyone makes mistakes, it will be what he learns from the experience that will be the making of him.  At first he was really motivated , got a mental health plan, saw a psych and decided to stop smoking weed.  After two visits he stopped going to the psych, saying he didn't need it any more. It seems that actually he had started smoking again as he had got a job and had some money.  To cut a very long story short, we don't know where to start with helping him get out of the funk he is feeling, get focussed, get a job with more hours or return to study. Our friends say we should kick him out if he keeps smoking, or at least take the car keys off him.  I know and he knows he has mental health issues which need sorting, but he won't commit to sorting them as he thinks that his dope use is not a problem. any constructive suggestions welcomed.  My family seem to think it is our fault for not having strong enough boundaries ... View more