Hey @Slinja I am sorry to hear about your recent loss, I can't imagine how tough things must be for you and your family right now. It is really lovely that you are here on the forums reaching out and supporting others. It sounds like things have been quite difficult for you for a while as you have been supporting your daughter and granddaughter through some of your daughters mental health concerns. I am sorry that your daughter was abusive towards you at times. Were you able to get help from any professionals to support you through these experiences?
If you are looking to talk with someone about how you are feeling and what you have been going through, there are counselling services that can support you. I've had a look at some services available in the UK, and found Cruse Bereavement Support which is a helpline that offers emotional support to anyone affected by grief. Here is a link to their website if you'd like to read more. You mentioned that you care for your granddaughter, which must be challenging at times. Do you get any assistance as her carer?
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@Sallyanne thank you for sharing with us about your son and the thrive approach It sounds like you've had many ups and downs but you have remained positive throughout all of this. You are doing an amazing job! I really admire your use of positive affirmations and I completely agree that they are so powerful!
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Hi Popcorn, My daughter is very driven and puts a huge amount of pressure on herself. Her big downfall is she won’t see a psychologist any more...she didn’t find one she connected with despite trying a few and she overthinks everything, particularly assignments. Her work is never good enough. When at school she gets really stressed over assignments. 18 months ago she was put on 50mg of sertraline but she didn’t feel it was doing anything and wanted to stop. We let her stop but her anxiety 2 months ago got to such a level that she wasn’t completing any work and having big meltdowns so she agreed to go back on it to try to take the edge off. She’s been on for 2 months and it seems to be helping. I’m seeing more of her old self and no meltdowns. She’s on 100mg with no noticeable side effects. She has been granted an exemption from school for this term so the real test will be next term when she goes back...year 11. We are meeting School this week to work out a plan but am thinking starting off with just Maths and build up from there.you need to work at a level where there’s challenge but not so much that the anxiety escalates to a point where she doesn’t function effectively. It’s so great your son will see someone. I see someone so they can help me work with her. They are such great capable kids and it’s really crappy that anxiety can impact so heavily on them.
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Hi @No Idea my daughter has been online schooling since year 8 she is now doing the HSC through Oten(a dept of tafe). The schooling is no problem except for the stress for her but the lack of socialisation is. What makes it harder to get on with people are her ideas are different to the mainstream which is great but doesn't win her friends. She is a pink haired, animal loving vegan, very opinionated and headstrong. Which is great and I'm hoping if she goes to tafe next year she will meet people that she has things in common with. I think the problem is she finds her peers too childish. I also think that being divorced has impacted on her and part of the problem is she finds it hard to be close to her father I know he loves her but they are not on the same page and she just wants people to love her how she is. I guess what I'm trying to say is our kids haven't processed our separation and need some help dealing with it as I think this could be the case with your son. I hope he is able to open up and talk to someone. It must be so hard for you not being able to do anything but you just have to let him know you are there always. All the best x
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