You sound so lovely and I’m so glad your granddaughter has you in her life. My daughter self harms. I wish I can give you magical words that will make everything ok but I don’t have them. We started using a book that when she feels like she is going to cut she brings me this book full of distractions like exercise, colouring, movies, cooking, heaps of different things and we work thru the book until her need is over. Just becareful that by telling her you love her on the condition she doesn’t cut doesn’t push her over the edge. She may need to cut one day and then after she cuts she feels guilty that she cut and that you won’t love her so it leads to something more serious. Go speak to your gp. Ask them what extra help you can get her. Are you in the position to have her full time? Are you in Australia? There are lots of mental health organisations that could help you. ... View more

Hi all! I have a 14 year old girly! She is totally amazing (biased I know!) the thing I love most about her is when things are good she is so engaging and funny. I have practice a lot of self help over the years after living with chronic pain and when things are going bad in our lives I take 10 mins and colour in or read a book. Something just for me. I’ve come to reach out to get a bit more information on how to help my girl. She currently sees a Councellor but I needed something for me. Somewhere to get help with how to deal with her. Especially in regards to her self harm. Seriously the advice I’m Living by at the moment is she will grow up soon and I will be wishing she was still home... ... View more