Great advice @Heretohelp!  ... View more

Hi @tsuwei I understand that feeling of "walking on egg shells"  When you said you used to get mad about her disrespecting but now you have bigger issues to worry about.  I have felt like that many times too.  I think I go through different stages of parenting at different stages of crisis.  For me sometimes its been okay to be a little lenient on somethings- like chores, etc.  especially when you are afraid to tip this delicate balance of already uncertainty.  I think there are times that come later that you feel more like "laying down the law".  I think its ok to deal with things as they come and decide the best parenting style to fit that situation.  I feel I have learned not to always be banging down her door asking how she is and giving a little space- but its hard too.  The thing that has stayed constant is that I always hug her and tell her how much I love her- no matter what else is going on.  I can really see how much you love your daughter!  Like @Taylor-RO has said- We are here for you! ... View more