This is one tough situation, as a parent. first, you are not failing! It's a learning process with kids period, but with teen girls it can be difficult to say the least. I have three girls 13, 12 and 9 so i see what each stage is like during each age group everyday. I know we as parents want to protect our teens from hurt and anything that makes them feel sad. I had a similar situation with my second oldest daughter. As a father it's sometimes hard to relate to my girls, but the fact that we keep open dialog often helps me see things through their eyes and also my girls to see things from my perspective (not often lol). My daughter had an issue with friends being nice, then, out of the blue, mean. There would be name calling, exclusion from peers and threats of harm. This caused my child to want to stay home, feel inadequate, have a poor appetite and sometimes angry. So I talked with the school and they seemed to brush it off. So, I went in and had a meeting with all the teachers, guidance counselors, principal and assistant principals. The meeting was first with my child present and a few minutes without. I even went as far as to contact the school's superintendent. No one should have to feel left out and bullied at school! It's their (the school staff) Job to monitor and address these behaviors of the students when made aware. long story short, the teens who were doing these things to my child parents were brought into this as well. this helped with the backlash of reporting. I developed a relationship with the parents with an open line of contact. It created accountability to those parents as well. truth is, you're doing your job with your child. Sometimes Parents are unaware of the trouble their kids are causing to others and need to step in a correct the situation at home first. I hope you and your daughter find peace and success. God Bless!
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