@Dad4good Thank you for this. Yes, I have had to quickly modify my role and expectations. I agree that it's so very difficult but, as you mention, it's important to foreground the relationship. For example, last year my daughter was doing very risky things with her phone. We then monitored her phone very closely (taking it away, installing monitoring apps and so on). Our intent was good (in that we wanted to prevent harm) but it dramatically altered and harmed our relationship. Don't get me wrong--I would probably do the same thing again with her phone (and still wish that we took it away more permanently) but I would have done so in a way that better preserved the relationship. I'm glad that your son returned home. How are things going with your son right now?
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