Hi, So I signed up to this site as an older sister not a mother because my mother does not seem to seek a solution to the problems by 14 year old brother is having. One thing I find an issue is the endless amount of time he spends locked in his bedroom and playing playstation! Maybe it's because my other brother and I were raised with relatively strict rules and were always the last of our family to receive technology. He goes to school, comes home, straight onto playstation and will stay up past 1am on a scool night and not get up until 8.30 in the morning when he starts school at 9. He stays on playstation all weekend, yes he is talking to friends but seriously is this healthy to never get off and interact with your family??? He has recently got a job in fast food and has done 2 shifts a week which is good to have extra social activities and develop more life skills and he also plays touch one night a week, but it is a struggle to force him to leave his playstation and go play with his cousin and friends ! He and mum argue every week about him not wanting to go. Mum always lets him know that he will be letting the team down if he doesnt play but he still refuses. Another big issue that he has is pooing his pants! He has been doing it for years but seriously i cannot fathom how a 14 year old, a teenager ! can feel comfortable sitting with poo in their pants. He has seen counsellors and doctors and all have said that there is nothing wrong with him? like surely he is not just lazy, i cant believe that there is no mental or medical reason as to why a teenager is pooping in his pants. sometimes my other brother or I will find his poo on the floor after the shower, he has no shame leaving his dirty clothes on the floor with evident poo in the undies for everyone to see either? My brother and I are both getting sick of it and are over dealing with it. None of us visit our father because he is hopeless and I think my little brother needs more attention from our mum but she doesnt discipline him as much as i think she needs to. I have no idea what to do, I've googled his playstation use and his pants pooing but nothing seems to come up. The counsellors and doctors hes seen have said nothing is wrong but he hasnt been to either in a few years now. Mum doesn't look into it as much because she just doesnt know what to do and i guess just hopes hell come out of it. Its been going on for too long now and its not healthy. Can somebody please help me ! Please if you have any advice or can point me in the right direction for advice. If anyone is going through similar with a child or has with their sibilings at some stage, anything will help right now becuase at the moment my family is out of options, were getting desperate!
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