I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I have "tried everything", and I guess what I am trying to figure out is when do you just throw the towel in and let your kids deal with the repercussions? Here's what I mean. I have a 15 year old daughter, who, up until starting high school was amazing. She was a straight A honor student, an international sports champion and an all around sweet kid. Her dad passed away in 2016 and we were "dealing with it", and she was doing well, keeping up with sports, keeping her grades up and not acting out. We had no choice to move and put her in a new school, full of super entitled kids. Immediately, she quit sports, discovered pot and has decided getting in trouble and ditching is cool. I spent all year last year dealing with the school, addressing possible bullying issues, talking to teachers, talking to the SRO, talking to the moms of the kids and it never got better. This summer she started sneaking out, using pot regularly, not following the rules, etc. She refuses to go to therapy, to the point where she will threaten to open the car door, as it's moving, to avoid it. She went to her first day of school, ditched, and hasn't been back since. She has a friend who she does this with and now that friend is going to do online school while my daughter is choosing to go to an alternative school. She also, recently, handed over all her marijuana (voluntarily) and said she was done and wanted to do better. She just got the go ahead to start school next Tuesday but was supposed to be attending a class (that was her choice) at her "regular" high school to stay on course to graduate with an LPN. She has been refusing to go. She told me she was going today, and then just didn't, and I am at work. She also will not answer my phone calls. So I have shut down her phone and taken away her access to the car. I am pissed she thinks this is a joke. For two days she has been super sweet and respectful and now here we are, again. She also likes to remind me that none of this would be happening if her dad didn't die, which is probably true, but I have given her every opportunity to deal with her grief and she flat out refuses. I can't force her to talk. I am seriously at my wit's end. I have chased her around for a year and I probably still will, but I am also at the point where I am just willing to let her get in trouble with the school or by the law. It's an awful feeling but I seriously do not know what more to do. help.
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