Hi, I am at a loss on what to do and how to help my daughter, she has social anxiety and depression and has been out of school for 12 months, at her request we enrolled her into distance education and I was hopeful and positive that this would be a turn around for her.  She is highly intelligent but since starting distance ed she has barely done anything, she has weeks of engaging with family and school work and then nothing.  She is abusive and defiant and disrespectful, she refuses to do chores or school work, then we have weeks where she is "back" to her normal self, funny, into school work, polite, does chores when asked and looks after herself such as showering etc. However this pattern has gone on for to long, we have been to headspace then was sent to children and young peoples mental health as she was considered to severe for headspace, she saw a counsellor for 12 weeks and we did have some improvement however counsellor decided to do the tough love approach and she refused to go back.  Its been up and down since then, good weeks and bad weeks, but this week I have not seen her except for me sneaking into her room to see if she is breathing for 6 days, I have woken her to be told to f.... off finally after 5 days she came out of her room and did engage for about 2 hours then left and back to her room.  She stays up all night, god knows what she eats, she does not have an eating disorder however I assume she is eating crap, she told me last night to stop worrying about her life and to get on with mine as her life was over and not worth worrying about.  I need help and I need how to help my daughter, its breaking my heart and I feel desperate and at a loss on how to help her, I have tried everything but it all seems to be a dead end, we cant afford a private psychologist but headspace etc is not helping, I just need advice on what to do ... View more