It must be very difficult to be facing this situation with your daughter and heart breaking to see how family members are treating her, despite the fact you can see it in her behaviour. BPD is a very complex disorder where the person often feels deep self loathing, and when they get triggered to feel this way, they will often act abrasively towards those who trigger these feelings. They often feel others are causing them to feel this way. So others will often feel they are attacked. The best thing to do when dealing with BPD is separate yourself from any reactions and see where it may becoming from, rather than react or take it personally. Here is some information that could help https://goodmenproject.com/mental-health-awareness/how-to-deal-with-a-person-with-borderline-personality-disorder-cmtt/?fbclid=IwAR09qtQGELCxhtddfx6gaksSbaSZh6W0NnLEE_V9eZ2a3oREPIUbN6nUZtM https://mental-health-matters.com/how-does-bpd-splitting-destroy-relationships/?fbclid=IwAR3O4BS99QMRjbTix7XYzi6PAnVfzYckxssRrVdCS2oGuRHzpbZiqwJZcFQ ... View more