Hi @Plhelp,   My son is 14, and yes he is at school (although he has struggled - in his 5th school now and previous was a special school that specialized in his conditions).   My son is very different to yours in that he will do anything to get social approval (including criminal activity to 'impress' peers). It really is the only reason he is going to school.   I can imagine your concerns regarding the developmental issues. I guess the best outcome we want for our kids is that they grow up having a good peer influence, and anything other than that we stress about.   I'm sorry I'm not able to provide helpful ideas for how you can help your son. It sounds like you are doing everything you can and I'm sure that is helping more than you can imagine. ... View more