Wow, this was a breath of fresh air to read. Thank you for sharing that perspective. We are likely seen as “strict” parents. However we do allow self expression. So far, our 15 year old has dyed her hair (blue/red whatever... you name it, and we even send her to salons to have it done for her) stretched her earlobes and been supported in most ways she wants for her identity (within reason). We were even considering allowing a tattoo at 16, until we found out she already had one. However, she sounds a lot like how you described yourself. Is there anything you would recommend to try to get her to open up to us? ... View more

Oh do I wish porn was the extent of our worries! Wouldn’t that be nice!!! ... View more

Well, we have been at a loss in managing it. With my other kids, the loss of a cell phone or privileges would be the end of the world, however those don’t work with her. We have spoken to her, she understands our disappointment, but she hasn’t yet received any consequences. She is still happy with the tattoo itself, as of now, no regrets (and it’s very hidden). ... View more

I hope you still see these. My daughter is 15. I just found out that she let a friend tattoo her over a year ago. Much like you, I try to let my daughter express herself. She has been allowed a lot of freedom for self expression, and I have always trusted her. Not only am I hurt and upset that she did this and hid it. But there’s now even a chance she damaged her immune system with the tattoo method. Would love to understand more from you. ... View more