Hi My daughter who’s is 21 is seeing a 22 year old boy who is showing signs of abuse towards her I can’t sit. back and do nothing I’m not naive and know how some men charm and seduce women I also have a lot of experience my daughter is 4ft8 and he is 6ft 3 I met him and straight away I felt a shiver just by looking into his eyes he actually reminded of my daughters farther who she has been estranged from for since she was 8 she has had mental health issues since 15 self harm and depression disorientation and takes antidepressants she was doing really well moved to go uni works part time and takes care of herself.Now he has come along and it’s driving me crazy my daughter has raised a lot of concerns about him with her 3 siblings who have shared with me and begged me not to say they told me my daughter has also sent me voicemails telling me about his behaviour which is really worrying I’ve had a chat with her about my concerns and fears we disagreed she cried she said she loves him they have known each other for 7 weeks and are spending too much time together if she was stronger mentally I wouldn’t get so involved but I can’t watch her go backwards this boy takes class A drugs and is telling her that it’s harmless and just like caffeine drinks and has type 1 diabetes which he plays on a lot and is always getting hypo and running out of syringes I’ve told me daughter the only way I will be comfortable is if I talk to him about his intentions and how he plans to take care of my daughter he has no job I want him to know that my daughter has a very close and supportive family who will not sit back and let him hurt her if her dad was around I’m sure he would have a chat with him so as a single parent that is what I’m going to do just wanted your thoughts and advice please ... View more

My daughter has been prescribed antidepressants by a phycologist she is 17 and is struggling with life at the moment she has self harmed superficially and has thoughts of not wanting to be here. IT has been a roller coaster of emotions for a few years I myself suffered with depression in the past and was taking meds for over 10 years I know this has had an affect on my kids and being a single parent only makes it harder with a lot on counselling and meditation and pushing my self forward I have beat my depression. I still get days when I want to hide away and cry so that's what I do then I pick myself up and remember how blessed I am to have 4 wonderful kids and my health. Sorry to talk about my self so much anyway I'm not happy with my daughter taking meds her phycologist also said she is too short 4ft 8 I am 5ft and my mum is 4ft 6 so I wasn't too concerned and that she is too thin she is petite and is trying her best to overcome her insecurities about being short. Her doctor also said she could have graves disease or a thyroid problem also I showed the phycologist a letter about my daughters eye condition Diplopia (week muscles in one eye) she just said she knows nothing about that condition so before they dish out antidepressants shouldn't they find out the underlying cause The phycologist told my daughter she needs antidepressants to get better and they will change her life and make her happy 😢 (not true) So on the third day Mel my daughter called me at work she kept saying mum help me I think I'm dying!!!! She had a major panic attack and felt very sick the doctor forgot to explain to her about the side affects she stopped them straight away her phycologist thinks I am over reacting to be honest I don't care what she thinks I find her very abrubt and has no empathy I asked what other help they offer she said phycotherapy but the waiting list is over 6 months and because your daughter isn't trying hard enough it's the meds or il take her of the counselling list great help she is not given any real support. All I am asking from her is to wait for all the test results she told us to do, thyroid, hormone balance because it could all be connected then take it from there not too much to ask right? Thanks for reading x ... View more