I really can't thank everyone enough for the support and advice! If i actually laid everything out a to z most people probably would not believe all this is actually going on. His family has a history of mental illness and mine does also so i can understand when he says i know something is not right w her but he uses that as an excuse for her behaviors. Her and i do get along really well but its hit or miss. Sometimes she communicates with one or both of us or not at all. For example he knew she was going with friends last night but didnt ask her where she was going or when shed be home. She doesnt answer his texts or calls ever. He left for work at 5am this morning and she did not come home until 615 am and then left again around 10. Again not saying where she was going. He does not ever punish her for these things. Its frustrating ... View more

No we don't clash exactly. I was raised firm but with general normal responsibilities.... shoveling snow, doing laundry, cutting grass, dishes etc. She does not do any of those. I think my boyfriend had a big responsibility and no one to go to for advice so now that he is able to ask me or just talk about things he sees things a bit differently. Back to clashing i think some of her behaviors are due to being so used to having her dad to herself and being so spoiled and at the same time she is kind of a bully and does things she knows will make me upset or bother me ... View more

Well we have known each other for about 9 yrs but he was planning on moving back where his family is after his daughter graduated. Now he hs a great job, friends and owns his own home. Because he planned on moving bk he didnt want to get into a relationship. Now that we are we both are the happiest we have ever been and are really perfect for each other. He has been and is being more receptive when we talk about his daughter & now that im bringing up things his friends are to and he is kind of starting to see things for what they are and he has been sticking up 4 me to his daughter so she is somewhat seeing that his happiness matters and is important and he is less tolerant of some of her statements ... View more

Ive mentioned a few things. But since she is almost 18 and it's been going on for so long things are kind of set in their ways. I don't want to step on any toes but also i feel like as an adult she should know to show some respect for others and show appre ciation for what we do for her. She is also going to be mobing out of state adter graduation to be closer to the family as her dad is the only one here. She is expecting her dad to move with her to take care of her & support her more than anything else. She does not know anything about taking care of bills. It's sad, scary & frustrating ... View more