Thanks @Lan-RO, My son meets with the school counsellor once a term and is doing well at school considering his anxiety - he has been really well supported by teachers and his head of house. He plays basketball outside of school and various sports through school. He loves building lego, playing games of strategy, war history, aviation, gaming, water activities, rock climbing, skiing etc. I would love him to join scouts (if we can find the time!) or something similar but he says he will only go if his mates are going. We have asked mates in the past and the answer has been 'no'. So an activity he can do with his dad to improve their connection, socialise with others and build confidence would be perfect if there is such an activity out there! The real issue is his group of friends at school don't invite him to join in outside of school/sport and its hard to know why or explain this to him without shattering his confidence or giving him further reason to be anxious. He seems to radiate to these boys and they seem to like him at school from all feedback from the school. There is one parent who we know has excluded my son and influenced other parents and I have discussed this with her (although we believe it still goes on). Not wanting to focus in this person, I'd love some advice on how to encourage my son to broaden his friendships. He has been invited to a new mates place tomorrow which is awesome and a huge boost to his confidence!
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My 13 year old son (only child) has trouble connecting with friends. He does have a group he hangs around with at school but he can be quiet and on the peripheral. Some of these boys are happy to come over or go to a movie, but my son never gets invited back. He is very anxious and has had some social issues in the past and is learning to overcome these with a positive mindset. At the same time the boys see him as witty and fun and he is quite good at sport. Other parents are lovely to us but exclude my son. I really feel we have missed the chance to connect with a group through school and am keen to get him into a social activity. We both also struggle with how teens now communicate and he does not want to be on social media. Any advise or shared experiences would be appreciated.
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