Good question @Ben-RO,
As I mentioned in another post, as Christians, faith is very important to us and I wouldn't want to confuse her with a message that doesn't fit within that context of believing God has an incredible love for her that overrides what others think about sex before marriage.
I also believe God made us as sexual beings (let's be honest - nearly everyone alive is because someone had sex!) and for it to be an incredible experience and part of a committed marriage. But we discover this érōs in the same way as agápē - through relationship with others (hearing their stories, loving and being loved, getting disappointed etc), through self-discovery, through prayer.
I believe God's put boundaries for all parts of life - for example we don't murder or steal because that's outside the right boundaries, and an excessive expression of sexuality (such as sexual intercourse) outside of marriage is outside that boundary.
I know her youth leaders also believe this which is helpful because despite being able to write it I'm not sure how to discuss it with her.
Hmmmm,
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