Um... yeah you are other than not forcing her to go to school... but like... shouldn't you be putting in a little extra effort to help your kid? She strayed from the path somewhere and it's your job to push her back. Maybe you've covered legal responsibilities, but not really moral and emotional. ... View more

1) Let her smoke outside. Smoking is her choice. 2) Faking mental illness, is indicative of an underlying mental problem.  3) Stand your ground more, no room for arguments. Don't fight with her. Don't let her fight. 4) Next time she threatens suicide, take her to an open therapist office or psychiatrist etc. 5) 5-7 years of emotional blackmail doesn't mean you failed as a parent. You just have a **bleep**ty kid.   Hope that helped. :) ... View more

Can't help with the friends part (I'm kinda used to losing friends), but it sounds like your daughter just needs space. She needs to live her life and experience it. Don't pry. Ask how her day was, if anything interesting happened, the like, but don't force a conversation if there isn't one. If she doesn't want to talk, don't force her. Otherwise keep the conversation light hearted and happy. (Also, if she tells you she wants to do something alone, just let her.) ... View more

Well depending on the kind of drugs your son was doing, this situation must be handled totally differently. First of all, weed is a soft drug and isn't very harmful when used in moderation. Secondly, it is way less harmful and addictive than cocaine. She really might just need to go through this. If her grades stay up and she becomes a little more extroverted, there really isn't much danger that you need to focus on. Also, trust your daughter. If she says she isn't smoking weed, she may not be. Maybe her friends were, or maybe she's stopping. Either way, if you want to talk to her, remember that it's her life. Her decision. Don't treat her like a kid or a junkie, treat her like a daughter and a trusted ally. Hope this helps. :) ... View more