we check in recently on her cellphone activity since she was in elementary she has had crushes and little love notes she was yelled at and given the, you're too young talk. Just last fall at 11 we found text between her and boy talking about holding hands kissing and dating when the new school year started, we punished her took away all electronics and explained dating is a big no at this age. We again found text on her phone not only that she is again trying to date but now claims to be bisexual and is dating a new school friend, we said no again no dating and took away all electronics for 3 months. We tried to explain how trying to date and as we put it to do things too young can lead to drama. I used examples from a documentary I just saw where a girl was ousted by the whole school over her ex, claiming she cheated and she was labeled a **bleep**, I thought that story got through to her but obviously it did not. Some may see this as wrong but since we have little trust we decided to read her diary since her punishment it has been heavily used. In it we found it very disturbing for a 12 yo, she talks about being in love with boys, being in love her "girlfriend" being turned on by them and wanting to be sexually active with them. in the diary, it also states she has not even had a first kiss I am not sure where she is getting sexual desires. Is this normal? I am scared she will attempt something with a crush and she is just way too young, she has an older sister and we have none of these issues with her. At home we watch wholesome shows 90's tv and family sitcoms, we try to not listen or let them listen to too vulgar music and keep them on the right track. I am not sure where all this is coming from, I thought maybe she is being influenced but from the diary, I feel she may be the bad influence on her friends who at this point seem to be more innocent than her. I just want to help her avoid a mistake and getting into this lifestyle that is so glorified in the world today. At home she is silly happy does not curse or show any type of sexualness, but in the diary, she is a completely different girl, and obviously at school as well. I do not want to let on we read the diary, but I feel something stricter needs to come of this, Mom has already had the sex talk they went over a book together talked of STD's etc. Any advice at all on what we can do next.
... View more