Hey there @LombotRoss it sounds like you and your boy have a lot to overcome.  Just a quick add; @LombotRoss wrote:   I do not want to resort to homeschooling because I think both his educational social skill development would suffer as a result.   Have you considered flexible schooling options? This might help to break the bullying cycle if he routine can't be predicted. Maybe he can only do some subjects at school and others from home but school sourced. Maybe he just do mornings. This doesn't have to be a permanent option but it might bridge this period of difficulty.   Does he belong to any group like sport, music, fitness, volunteer? There is a connection between teen resilience and belonging or feeling worthwhile and wanted by someone who isn't related. For my kids Scouts covers this and the risk taking behaviour. This also includes have good role models for our kids.   I also wonder how your son feels about pacifism. Maybe you both need to define it and how it could work in your area. Has he logged into the teen forums? Have you asked a teen on these forums? Their view can be so different.    You might like a few of the articles by Ian Lillico. Especially Boys and their Masks and Bully proofing your son.    ... View more