Hi @Taylor-RO, I apologise for any unacceptable wording. Thank you for letting me know and your advice. ... View more

Hi @Jay-RO, My son with issues is now 21, am I able to continue on this forum. Thanks ... View more

Hi, I’ve just re-read the guidelines and my son is 21. Should I continue to be on this forum. ... View more

Hi @hermum76 Thanks for you kind words and if you ever need to talk. I’m here too. Tonight my son seems to be in one of his moods and the anxiety is in overdrive for me. He lives on his own and usually texts me to reach out and tonight he mentioned that he has marks on his arms. Now I don’t know if he’s just trying to get attention, he doesn’t want me to go over. I’m stressing out. I don’t want to talk to my husband about it as I don’t want to make him upset and anxious too so I try and keep this from him. I’m taking deep breaths and I’m hoping bring on this forum might help ... View more

Hi @Atlanta, My husband and I were fine with this as we preferred that they were safe getting home. Though if it was all the time and they seem unappreciative then it might be time for a discussion to come up with a better plan ... View more

Thanks @PapaBill ,   It does help that there are so many people that are having similar issues and that we are not alone. Unfortunately it doesn't help that I have anxiety issues which only flares up when he has issues. \\   He only lives 30 mins away so he is close and I try and see him each week, when he wants to.   He seems to be in a place where he expects me to help him resolve his issues which I think comes from parenting him in that way, when he was younger he had anxiety issues and we seemed to do a lot for him. Which I think is preventing him from going out there and doing this for himself, he just seems to come up with excuses. I'm trying to encourage him to go back to his hobbies, he was interested in painting miniatures and playing Warhammer board games and card games. But he keeps coming up with excuses saying no one talks to him and he needs more models which of course costs more money.   I've told him to join the under 25 online forum here but he seems resistant, he'd rather catch up with groups rather than one on one online chats. He just doesn't seem to want to try.   Today he was at some training for his new job and one of the exercises was to put themselves in height order, and that got him so upset, as he was the shortest and that was with all other females (though sometimes I think he exaggerates).   He sees a psychiatrist but has stopped seeing his psychologist as it used to make him more upset each time we went. He has meds but does not take them everyday as he says it doesn't help.   Trying to take it one day at a time but it's hard to not think about the future and what that entails.   It's also tricky trying to suggest sports as he not the most athletic so I don't think doing something that he will fail at will help. He loves ice skating so did try doing ice hockey but the other kids were teasing him, so he quit. I just wish these kids would grow up and all this bullying and teasing would stop and if they only knew what damage this was doing to their victims. My son has spoken often of wanting to end it all and just to let him go but I have constantly told him that I will never give up on him. I'm getting a bit teary now so might stop.   Thank you so much for all the love and support.   ... View more

Hi,   I'm new to the forum.   1. I have a 19 and 21yo. My 21yo who has mental help issues joked with me last week which hasn't happened in a long time and my younger one is always making e smile with his wit. 2. I try and take the dog out for a walk. 3. I'm going through a tough time as my 21yo son is having one of his downs, so it makes me very anxious. 4. Parenting is the hardest job in the world and you can only do your best. 5. Just spending time at home is the best thing about weekends at the moment.  ... View more