Hi @Kamilla111    Sounds like you are dealing with an irate parent who expects you to re-order your life to meet there wants. Funnily enough I was having a discussion this very weekend (and into this week) with my partner about dealing with her mother who does exactly the same thing!.   There are a number of things that I spoke to my partner about and I think they are worth sharing with others. First, sometimes as people get older things can get confusing (like with my 93 old step mum) but I presume at 25 your are not dealing with this. Second, Loving and helping someone doesn't give them the right to behave badly.  You are worthy of respect and can still help and love someone while demanding they treat you with respect.   As I read the details of your story it appears to me you had a plan agreed with your father that he didn't quite understand.  He figured you were busy for work which he accepted as a #1 priority but then found out it was not the case and he expected to be #1 priority.   IMHO  You sound like you have done all to be reasonable right up to the bit where you "I wrote a long message to my dad apologizing if I offended him somehow, that it was not my intention".     I understand the desire to try an make peace but I would suggest apologizing for acting reasonably and changing your plans are exactly the wrong things to do.  You can be loving and respectful whilst demanding to be treated with respect.   I have been coaching my partner (not sure how much she is listening) when her mother starts screaming, to say in a calm tone "Mae, I love you and want to help you but I will not be yelled at. Once you have calmed down we can talk about it Love you... " Then hang up the phone and turn it off for half an hour.   Your offered him to attend the party, you offered special time exclusive with him. That is more than reasonable.  Even if you were being unreasonable (which you weren't) that doesn't give your farther the right to behave like you describe.   You should not tolerate people abusing you. Being a parent is no excuse to abuse children. I do realize there are cultural issues in play here, but that is still no excuse.   You have right to be treated with respect and a right to demand it              ... View more