Assuming you don't have an option but to stay there for now. The best advice I can giving is this: Try to convince everyone to go into family counseling for the sake of your son. If they are not willing to do that, then it is time for a very serious, and honest family meeting. You are going to have to be tough, and think about what is best for your kids. Do NOT come from a place of anger. Let everyone know you are worried about your baby. Approach it something like this: "I know you love him as much as I do, and you want the best for him. But I am worried, and seeing some very troubling behavior". Then delve into the problems, and come up with a TEAM solution. Everyone will have to be on the same page, or he will continue to develop problems. One thing is certain, the behavior cannot continue. Talk to the grandmother, and everyone else involved. They might think the behavior is cute....but the cuteness will fade. Ask them how they will respond if he is pulling knives on people when he is 13. Let them know YOU will be going to counseling to get advice, even if they refuse to go. If they are using him to hurt you, that thought will scare them....because they know the behavior is wrong. You also need to be firmer with your son. Do NOT let him treat you like that. Are you familiar with discipline that works at his age? If not....I can give some guidance. But it is important that you act like a father, and discipline him when needed. Do not be scared of his words.... you are the parent, and it is important that he treat you like you are in charge, not him. Take knives away, start using proper discipline, and be firm. Do NOT let the grandmother interfere, remind her that you are his father and you WILL do what is best for your son.
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