Hi @compassion Sorry for taking so long to say this... thank you so much for all of your suggestions! I wouldn’t consider her father to be an alcoholic but as there isn’t any additional help available with the school, I think we both need to understand how we deal with his emotional outbursts through some form of professional help. I’ll also be discussing the options you have suggested with my daughter so again thank you so much for taking the time to help me. X ... View more

Hi, Yes, I’m ok thank you and the response from @compassion was amazing and has definitely given me some options to discuss with my daughter. She’s been home this week but she’s been doing shows at the school so I’ve not discussed any of them with her yet. I’ll definitely be going through them with her when we get a chance. It’s given me so much more confidence that we can find a solution. Thank you for checking in on me 😊 ... View more

Hi Janine, Thank you for your reply. I am really concerned about her well being when he’s been drinking and I’m now starting to be concerned when she’s just round there in general. I know teenagers deserve a telling off now and then and even my daughter understands that. He just goes from one extreme to the other so she’s constantly walking on eggshells shells. I share custody with my ex, my daughter came up with the schedule of alternating every week. She was finding it hard swapping between houses every other day so wanted to have a bit more consistency. It was hard but she’s old enough to give her views and I know I need to respect that. Thank you for the link, I’ll have a look at what’s out there. I actually received counselling for my own issues last year. It was really hard as I could see that my daughter was struggling and I couldn’t even cope with my own life at that point in time. Still living with the guilt now that I couldn’t be there for her as much as I should have been. I go to yoga and read to have my me time and this has really helped. I’ve learned that I need to allow time for me :) Thank you for the support xx ... View more