Hi everyone, I thought I would check in and give you all an update...it's been a pretty turbulent few weeks!! I'll try to keep this brief! After my last update, I started receiving late night phone calls from a blocked number. I assumed it was him, so I answered one of them. He again accused me of talking to his parole officer. He was clearly high on drugs and started to threaten me again. He threatened to kill me, murder my family, shoot up my house and told me he had people on standby to come to my house. So I did what any sane person would do in that situation... drove to his crisis accommodation in the middle of the night and try and talk him down. He needed help, not to go back to prison. I helped him settle, made him some food and put him to bed. The following day he called me full of apology and I told him he could come back (much to the horror of my husband). For the first week he was perfect, we made a sort of case plan in which he identified the things he wanted to work on, he was completing his goals and being great around the house. Then he started back on the drugs and things went down hill again. We had agreed to a 3 strike policy in the plan and I had to give him three warnings in 3 days. He then sent me a barrage of abuse late at night. Honestly, I have had to delete the messages as they were so hurtful i couldn't read them. Again, taking personal things and throwing them in my face with the only purpose being to make me feel terrible. He used every insecurity, every vulnerability and every fear I have about myself in a really despicable way. As he had already received his 3 warnings, i told him he had to leave - I had been very clear in my communication with him and documented the warnings so there was no room for error. The following morning, he was extremely remorseful, but when he came to pick up his stuff later that day he was back to being aggressive and unpleasant. He continued with the abuse, grabbed me by the wrist and tried to intimidate me and then came at me with a heavy object in his hand. I was pretty shaken up and contacted the police. I wanted the incident noted, but wouldn't give a statement as I didn't want to be the reason he was arrested and back in jail. That was last Tuesday and we haven't had any contact since. He was very angry with me, and for the first time, I was scared of him. I don't think there is any coming back from where we left off and the things he said to me sadly. I'm pretty devastated at the way things went. I care about him a lot but I couldn't continue to put him before my husband, family and my own mental health.
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