Thank you SO much for taking the time to write that encouraging and helpful response! I appreciate it more than I can say. You've given me lots to think about, and you've given me hope. I'm a little embarrassed to admit that I was so close minded with the school situation and I just wanted her to be out of the house, fighting her demons no matter how hard. Sometimes I have a difficult time understanding her anxiety and how hard it must be for her, and why she can't just get up and go. Your message reminded me that I need to be much more patient and understanding, and to be happy that she hasn't given up on life completely. Thank you for your support!!!!
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Hi there. I'm Jody and I'm new to this site. Thanks in advance for reading my post. My daughter just turned 19. She's been dealing with social anxiety since grade 8. High school was a nightmare for her...numerous calls home because of feeling sick, dizziness, sore stomach, heart palpitations. She did manage to graduate, and she was determined to go to University last September. She went for 2 weeks, and quit :( Since then, she doesn't do much of anything. She's in her pajamas all day long, she doesn't leave the house unless it's with me, she has absolutely no friends. She's been on medication for 2 years now, and she sees a mental health counselor, but there's been no improvement. It's heartbreaking and frustrating to watch my daughter waste her life and not be able to help her. She's talking about signing up for school again this September, but she wants to do online classes. I don't like this idea, because I'm worried about her secluding herself even more. I don't want her to be alone inside the house for the next few years! I think she needs to push herself to be out in public around people, dealing with everyday issues like everybody else, preparing herself for the workforce, trying to make friends. Other people I know who suffer from anxiety say you have to push yourself to do things, no matter how nerve racking or uncomfortable. Am I wrong to want her to get dressed every day and get on the bus and go to school? Or should I be okay with her staying in her pajamas, getting absolutely no exercise, sitting in the living room with the curtains closed, and seeing nobody all the time. Its frustrating.
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