Hi!    Not sure where to start but I just found out at my parent's interview in school two days ago that my ex was bringing a young baby. Later found out he is re-married 2.5 years ago. My 9 years old has been told to hide the secret and not to tell me. My relationship with my ex has never been ambical, police lodged a protection order against him and we were in and out of court for 3-4 years. He always wants to have more time with our son so he can stop paying me child support.     My 9 y.o was bursting to tears that his dad was threatening him that he will face "consequences" if I interfere his new family (which is completely understandable).    My question is if I should keep pretending that I don't know the existence of my ex's new family? or for the sake of my son, I should reach out to his dad and tell him some of my concerns? My son later tells me that he feels really lonely because "they" are a complete family and he often needs to stay in his room by himself so he doesn't "disturb".    I am just hoping there is no detrimental effect on my son mentally and physically if I speak out.    Thanks for everyone's help. ... View more