Hi there, Found this forum while googling last night & would be so grateful for some advice. I've been a single mum for 6 & 1/2 years now & although my kids are now 18 & 20, they live with me full time. Challenges are still so real and a big one hit me last night. I sprung them smoking cannabis in the garage. I'm completely devastated and don't know what to do to handle this situation, I feel lost and I have very little co parenting support from their Dad. Do I even tell him? He is in the picture and is contact with the boys, but he's never been great handling parenting issues. They are both technically adults I know, but I'm not happy about it happening under my roof and most of all I'm concerned about them getting involved in drugs and making bad choices that will take them on a road that shouldn't be travelled. They have been bought up in a Christian home and I have been very clear about my thoughts on this topic in the past - I understand the desire to want to try it, they said they were curious, but I don't support this choice. I just want them making good choices and obviously as their mum want to protect them as much as I can, but I do realise kids will/need to make their own choices to learn life lessons. I'm not naive enough to realise that my kids are immune to wanting to try various things. I'm a very open minded individual and I have learnt enough with this parenting gig to understand that getting angry & yelling will not help at all. I am planning on sitting them both down and attempting to have an adult conversation with them about it. This goes together with some other lack of respect & trust issues and I'm struggling to know what to say and what consequences are fair. What the flip do i do?
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