Thank you, I’ll take that on board. I tried to talk tonight about it and my partners attitude is that it shouldn’t even be a problem or a discussion whether she lives with us permanently or not. All I’ve put forward is that he makes contact with his ex and organise 50/50 care. I really don’t have any other say in this. He will choose his kids over me, which is fair enough I guess. I can only hope that she decides to repair her relationship with her mum!! ... View more

Thank you for responding, Regarding being disregarded for eg, When saying goodnight I’ll be sitting right next to her dad and she will say goodnight to him and then walk off, she has to be constantly reminded to say goodnight to me. About a month ago, I had been home from work for at least 2 hours before she came out of her room, still not saying hi. She won’t take any guidance from me and always waits for her dad only to be given the same guidance!! I reached out to her the day she refused to go with her mum, but that just fell on deaf ears. I have suggested to my partner that I’d be more comfortable having her 50/50 as I do my kids as I dont think it’s fair in the other parent to miss out. When she stays with us, she gets away with just doing her own thing and is more relaxed, spend 90% in her room. Where as she has more structure when with her mum. Another thing I have struggled with since the word go, is becoming a step mum and feeling guilt towards my 2 kids ( now 19 and 16 ) but they are pretty easy going it’s more me. My partner is fantastic with my 2, but feel I can’t talk to him about his daughter. There isn’t a lot of interaction between them either, but saying that, they do get along. ... View more