We had a big chat over this weekend, we originally thought the headspace councillor was going well but she said she was finding them a little.... robotic? In that they were giving her textbook handling techniques (if I understood what she’s saying) rather than a real personalised discussion. However she said it’s getting somewhere so stay the course for now.   I'm hoping the friends issue will settle soon; she recently broken (and a little betrayed) by her girlfriend who is continuing to be part of the group and picking at her a but. Biggest current problem is none of the others are supporting her again the ex (I know, love dramas... right?) the difficulty of walking away from friends who aren’t really being friends versus having no friends....   yes, she does drama double classes after school which does at least offer her a different group of friends. Plus extra curricular school based dance; she enjoys the dance but feels snobbed by those girls.   as parents, yes we do have our own activities; lately I think the biggest problem is trying to fit too much into the week. Lol. We are both tradies and work together in a small business; it’s crazy hectic! Lol ... View more

Hard to say without knowing the lad.....   Both our kids are born so they are extremely young for their year level.   for the daughter; she’s always been very academic and mature.... never a problem. For the boy; massive problem that has effected every aspect of his schooling, really wish we could have delayed his start.... ... View more

Honestly man, biology is a tiny tiny part of being a dad.   I’d  suggest your Concerns may be more about become a dad period verses it being biologically yours?   if you’re with this woman and you love her, you’re ready to be a father.... forget the baby’s origins and just step up to the plate.  being a parent is extremely challenging but also very amazing too.... ... View more

Further note; my wife and I both grew up under abusive parents to varied degrees.  We obviously understand teen stress and difficulty with friendships etc; I say we are an open household because we have both gone to strong lengths to be open minded and understanding.   both our pair are (touch wood) good, decent kids; never drugs, no drinking, well loved and they do both know it. We don’t have lots but always have more than the essentials.  We kinda assumed that our childhood issues were because of the poor households but it seems no matter the kid....  ... View more