My 13yo son has become very moody as of late. At the start of the year we moved states and he started high school. Within a week he had made a few friends & a girl friend. Eight months later and he still has a girl friend BUT they always fight . When they fight it’s usually a jealousy issue ( she of he and vice-versa).( We have spoken with him about relationships, respectful conversation, maintaining friendships outside of his relationship etc...) When he fights with his girlfriend it is usually done over text messages. The problem is when he fights with his girlfriend he becomes angry and he takes it out on me (Mum) . When he is disrespectful it results in a consequence (we have clear outlines about actions & consequences ) and when he has his phone taken away he becomes aggressive. Today after he came home from school he became really rude, refused to give his phone back and became aggressive. When I picked his phone up and put it in my pocket. He lunged at my pocket to take his phone back, refused to move out of my way when I wanted to leave his room & started swearing. I ended up pushing past him but he followed me still trying to get his phone back and being rude. Usually when this happens the only way these interactions ends is when I get really upset and start to cry or he grabs at me and I push him away. I’m worried that these arguments are escalating and may result in one of us becoming too upset and doing something that will harm the other. I’m finding that these ‘moments’ only happen during/after he has had a fight with his girl friend. For the most part he is usually well mannered and respectful. His grades at school are still great and he interacts nicely with his younger sister. It’s just that this relationship with his girlfriend is ‘all consuming’ for him. His moods are dependant on how his interactions are with his girl friend.
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