Hi @OzzieMum ,
That's a tough one! As a first step, I'd probably suggest chatting to her teachers- I've found that different teachers can have very different expectations about what grades are considered 'good', and they also may be able to give you some indication about how she's performing in relation to the rest of her class. Have you had much feedback from her teachers about how she is going?
I can completely understand you feeling frustrated if she doesn't seem to be doing enough study at home, do you think it's a matter of not wanting to do the work, or could it be that she doesn't have the study skills she needs? Some kids can really struggle with executive function type skills, like time management, knowing how to get started on tasks, and breaking down big projects into smaller tasks. Or some kids get really anxious about school work and tests, and end up avoiding study even though they may want to do well. If you think she'd be interested in learning a bit more about this, we do have some great study tips sections on our website that you can check out here.
Keep us posted with how you get on!
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That does sound like a really tough situation...most kids would struggle to have to sit quietly without anything to do for half an hour, and it sounds like that your son in generally is someone who likes to have of activity to engage him.
I'm sorry to hear the school hasn't been much help, and it doesn't really seem reasonable that they would expect you to manage your son's behaviour without putting any changes in place themselves to support your son while he is in class.
I think it is hard because at the end of the day we can't really control or change anyone's behaviour, we can only really respond to what they do and try to get them to understand there are consequences and enforce those consequences when it's needed like the psychologist said. If your son understands the consequence to his behaviour is time-out, things like that and he's still not wanting to change, I think it would be hard to do much beyond that besides maybe finding other ways to motivate him to change, possibly working with a psychologist? And similarly maybe your son's teacher has to come to that point where if she's not willing to work with your son to implement other activities to engage him, it's likely he will keep acting out like this.
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