I just wanted to check in and see how everyone is going on this thread:
@Allanah I'm so sorry to hear that things have been so tough with your son. I think that @Birdwings ' words of advice are incredibly wise, and you're so spot on - there is so much support for parents when our kids are younger, but often when we are 'in the trenches' with older kids it can be really isolating at a time when we really do need the support. I just thought I'd share this service with you in case you think it would be helpful to have a one to one chat with a child and famliy professional- ReachOut offer free one to one support sessions with experienced professionals in partnership with the Benevolent Society, and I've heard really great things about them. Sometimes it can help a lot to get someone else's input into these tricky situations - it's a free service, and you can find out more about it here.
It must be so frustrating to feel like there may be some underlying mental illness with your son, but not have him be willing to attend appointments. We do find that some young people are more open to online counselling as a less confronting way to access help for mental health issues- do you think your son might be open to this at all? If he is interested, eHeadspace offer free online counselling.
is another great organisation who specialise in providing support to men, and they also offer free phone and telephone counselling. Anger management and talking to men about violent behaviour is something that they specialise in, and they have some great resources here that you can check out.
How have things been going for you in the last few weeks?
@joanne123 I also just wanted to check in with you and see how you're doing? There are quite a few options to access counselling, depending on what you are looking for.
As I mentioned about, ReachOut do offer a free one to one support service for parents , you can find out more about that here.
As @Birdwings mentioned, you can also see your GP for a Mental Health Plan, which can give you access to sessions with a mental health professional which get a medicare rebate.
There's also a range of online services if you think that would work well for you, there's a good list of some great Australian services here
@Birdwings I am about to reply on your other thread, but just wanted to thank you for your amazing kindness, compassion, wisdom, and generosity of spirit that you show in supporting other parents here
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Hello, Joanne! I feel you. And I remember myself in my 14 y.o., it was such a hell for my parents. It is good that you are asking for advice, as many people try to simply ignore it. You should talk to the child, but if he does not make contact, try to find out something at school. They are watched, they can give behavioral evaluations. Maybe he does not feel needed or loved enough, or he needs attention or really thinks the way you wrote. Then there is nothing to be done; it is his choice. Be open and try to avoid shouting, you will only give him an understanding that he is right and you are not.
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