Hi @Rachel1234 ,
It's really common for young people to start questioning their sexuality, and exploring different parts of their identity. It can be quite a confusing time, especially if they're not quite sure where they 'fit', or if they're worried that their friends and family might not accept/ support them. Your daughter is still young, and the process of working out her sexuality and identity may take years.
You've mentioned that she's said that she is scared that she might "turn gay", I'm wondering if you've asked her why she feels this way? Does she feel like there's something wrong with being gay, or is she just uncertain about working out her feelings?
ReachOut have some great resources for parents to help to support their teenagers as they work through their sexuality and identity here. The most important thing you can do is love and support your daughter unconditionally, and let her know that there's no rush to work out exactly where she fits in. You may also find this video and article helpful, it talks about a lot of different aspects of discovering sexuality for teenagers.
It looks like you might be in the USA, is that right? If you're worried about your daughter's wellbeing, do you think a school counsellor might be a good place to start? Otherwise, just letting her know that you, or another trusted adult in her life, are there for her to talk any time should help a lot. We also have a great article aimed at young people that she may like to check out here
With her TikTok use, there are safety settings you can use to restrict kids from seeing any explicit material (I have an 11 year old daughter myself and have set this up on our device!) -it's called Family Safety Mode, there's a link here explaining how to use it here if you think that might be helpful :)
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