I am a pretty young mother. I got pregnant with my first daughter when I was 20 and she is now 17. I had a lot of unresolved trauma and I'll have to admit, I did not raise her the right way. I was angry a lot and hit her and yelled, but I never beat her. Although, my daughter would argue with me and said I left bruises, I digress. She grew up angry and distant and it had just made me not want to be involved with her anymore. Things have been very tense with her and she has ran away numerous times with her boyfriend. Now, my husband has given her everything. He is not her biological father, but he buys her things, puts a roof over her head, feeds her, etc etc. I think he is a very good dad to her. My daughter seems to think otherwise. My husband has a no tolerance policy for her bullsh** and this caused a great rift between them. I'll admit, he is a bit aggressive sometimes. He'll hit her and yell at her but only when she is being a brat. Otherwise, he leaves her alone. But they had a squabble the other day which led to her getting physically hurt and my husband said some things I'm sure he didn't mean. This led to my daughter completely refusing to do chores and lie in her bed all day. When my hubby gets mad he gives her the silent treatment for about a week or so, but this got him so upset that he had to confront her. He told her, "You have to earn yourself a place back in this family. You want to stay after you're 18? Do what we tell you and we won't have an issue." I'm not sure why, but this struck a chord with her. She started crying. She still refused and I'm honestly lost at what to do. I don't feel bad for her, she needs to grow up and pull her weight in the house regardless of what happened. But I'm tired of doing the dishes when it's supposed to be her job. What do I do?
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