Hi, I'm new here. So I have a son and a daughter two years older than my son. Initially, my son was a very bright student but overtime his grades started dropping. My daughter tends to be quite jealous of him and tells me he's been gaming and it isn't fair that she is doing a lot of the chores plus her own schoolwork load so, after a while of confirming that he had been slacking off, I tried talking to him. However, my son is much more eloquent than myself and I have trouble winning against him and when I do yell he will start to cry and threaten to commit suicide. What can I do? So I just give him a hug and a stern warning and that's usually how it goes. (My daughter is NOT happy with that since she got a much firmer treatment when she did the same thing back then). Maybe because I went through the harsh puberty period with her that I was unwilling to deal with it a second time.   Anyway, it's been a few years and my son's nearing his last year of university (bachelors). However this year he had finally failed his two of his core units and I know it's from gaming and other things, not his intelligence or due to overwork (he had three units for this semester instead of four, he didn't take on a part-time job or volunteer). My daughter feels vindicated. Even though she's an adult she loves to complain about how my treatment of her was different, that I should be firmer with my son, that I spoil him more, that he should have done more chores and how the excuse he's in year X while you're in year X+2 is so unfair and will do nothing for him in the future. I was upset at her for constantly nagging at me and questioning me but I can't exactly say anything to that. My son now wants to drop an entire major instead of repeating the two units because he feels it's too hard. He doesn't seem to care that if he does that all the money for that major (3 years of uni fees) would be wasted. My daughter keeps telling me it's because I never listened to her and made him get a job/volunteer/chores etc so he's not fully appreciative of things and I just.... I don't know what to do, my daughter is making me feel awful because I didn't listen (I mean, I tried my best) to her advice and complaints about pushing my son to do more, and on the other, my son is feeling very 'delicate' given he's just failed for the first time and I'm worried if I push him too hard he'll try to commit suicide because of the pressure.  Sorry for the long rant, any advice? ... View more