Narcissist Ex cannot handle me Posting anything on Facebook that tags our Adult Daughter as he gets jealous. This upsets me no end as it seems I am not allowed to enjoy my Relationship with my own Daughter and he has to ruin that too. Feels like any piece of happiness in my Life when it comes to my Children is/was often taken away by him. He has succeeded in Brainwashing our Son, (whom I hardly ever see and yet he visits his Father for Dinner once every Week). Our Son did tell me that he feels Sorry for his Father because he lives on his own and has nobody else. Our Son (when he does come for Visits on Birthdays and Christmas) often comes out with sarcasm directed towards me, and I hear this disapproval and where it has been planted from just by the things our Son says. Narcissist Ex does not treat our Son as badly as he at times treats our Daughter, does not insult him the same, or threaten him. Always blames me for Distance between himself and our Daughter, when really it is because he treats her poorly and nothing she ever does seems right. He did the same when they were Children, (not wanting to spend time with him after our Separation) and always has. Any times anything has ever gone wrong in their Lives? its always my Fault of course. He is wrong about me and my Life and my Relationship with our Children, but tells anyone who will listen Lies and Fabrications about me. They all Believe it, especially his younger Brother who is just as bad in his Relationships with his own Children but he has to interfere in Mine!! Our Daughter has regularly Visited her Father once a Week, (occasionally more) plus he regularly contacts her by phone, and she is roped into doing Housework or other stuff for him often. He offers no credit for her Efforts in their Relationship, and if she fails to visit for some valid reason, (whether because of him, scheduling, time or other Responsibilities), he will insult her, threaten her and then when she reacts he blows it up into a big Drama once again and blames her Reaction for this. He uses his Brother as his favorite Flying Monkey, and our Son too. So, his Brother has been adding insult to injury by messaging our Daughter and insinuating that it is my fault this is all happening again. As does her Narcissistic Father. This happens every 3 months, sometimes less. It has been happening regularly for 25 years, only it used to me be that he targeted, dragging me through the Courts to try and win Custody by playing the game of he was a Better Parent. He didn't win, so gave up that Fight only to start another. I feel like I cannot Win either. Wonder if I moved to the other side of the World would he be happy? If I died, would he be happier? Then he would have them all to himself!! If I moved to the other side of the World, I would then be in more pain because I would see my Children being hurt yet again and I would not be able to provide proper comfort when needed. Dying would be even worse but I do contemplate it sadly. Our Daughter is finally pregnant (currently 18 weeks), and her Father is being an absolute **bleep** yet again. She did not fall pregnant easily, it was through the IVF process which is not an easy one. She also has had a lot of Health issues for someone so young and I feel for her so. She has a Stressful Job, but handles this well despite being Pregnant, but the Stress of her Father is impacting on her heavily and i am so upset and Angry over this, I feel like giving him a piece of my Mind but I cannot. Currently, she has Apologized to her Father for the mild things she said in comparison to his Insults and threats, and she has asked for an Apology from him, which he refuses to give as always. She has left things at a standstill and said she will take a break from him, and her Partner confirmed this to her Father just 2 days ago. And yet she still feels Guilty for this, especially because of Christmas being only 2 weeks away, and because he has nobody but his Dog and his Brother and his Brothers Wife, who is on the Verge of Divorcing his Brother but also cannot be trusted. They are all big Pot Smokers, which I have always known was part of their Problem, (pardon me for being so forward about this) but in my experience heavy users are Drug Addicts too. What do you think?
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