And on that note I will sign out.  Got a few things to do before I crash out.   Nice to chat. ... View more

@taokat  wow fab she is topping some subjects..she must be a clever girl.  Would she drop maths eventually?  I am not suggesting she should but I know lots of kid do at the hsc time if they don't like it.   Thanks for asking about the forum.  I think I am getting the hang of it and I guess each time I login  I figure out a bit more.  Like you all at times life gets a bit hectic and don't do much.  There are some posts that I just don't feel qualified to answer but I guess that is normal too You are amazing and give some great answers   ... View more

thats funny @taokat  I spend my time telling my guys that I am never buying biscuits/ treats again cos I am always finding the half empty packets!  My oldest is the worst offender..he would just inhale a packet of Timtams while waiting for dinner!!Like your daughters thinking..hide the evidence and let mum think she ate them!  ... View more

@Zoesplace great that she is getting into it now and taking a bit more interest.  Its so hard to keep them focused all the time!  Its easier when they are doing subjects they like though.   ... View more

@Zoesplace  thank you. got it.  I feel very much the novice on here!!  I have stopped double clicking and think that has stopped me posting everything twice! ... View more

Hi @Zoesplace  Rory is doing religion..one unit.  he loves it.  Great to get one subject done I guess.   Is your daughter going well? Does she worry ? And yes @taokat have some chocolate..lots of it! ... View more

taokat ( not sure how I get your name to come up?)  he is very relaxed which is great.  My husband likes to think they are alike but I think he has a bit more of mum in him!!  We don't stress too much. At the same time though he is pretty focused on the task and puts the work in so no complaints about the way he is going at the mo. Mind you has no clue how to put the dishwasher on etc etc bu thats a work in progress..eh!! ... View more

all good in my house thanks. My oldest boy is in year 11 but is doing one HSC subject this year so has a trial friday.  Pretty relaxed about it so thats great.  My little guy Harry and I had the nast flu last week but all on the mend. you guys well? ... View more

hi I am here in my tracki daks and slippers! ... View more

I work most wednesday evenings.   I will see if I can change next week as I would love to tune in. ... View more

Hi Moloko   Am so sorry to hear how sad your daughter is at the moment.  It is so awful to see our kids struggle and suffer. Have you considered speaking to the school? perhaps they may be able to give you some insight into why she is unhappy and also the struggles she is having with the friendship groups.  I agree with Zoeplace it is important to get try get your daughter to see your GP and speak to psychologist and or psychiatrist.  I can only imagine how frightened you and your husband are to realise she is self harming. The positive thing is at least you now know and can get her some help. You mentioned she spends a lot of time on her phone/computer.  I would suggest you and your husband set some guidelines around her usage.  She is so young and while you can get her into better habits.  It may not seem a priority at the moment but it would concern me that the kids who are not being nice to her at school can continue to hassle her online too. I really hope things improve for your girl. ... View more

Hi mahsan,   I understand your concerns.  I found the school starting age a tricky one to work out since I am not from here.   Having 3 children with 2 now in high school my advise to you at this stage would probably be to wait another year. If you feel he is struggling academically another year in primary will give him a chance to consolidate and gain more confidence in his learning.  The move to high school is a huge step and if you know him best and don't feel he is ready it may be best to hold off.  However over the next few months if you see changes in him you can always change your mind.   Hope that is helpful and best wishes.         ... View more

Hi mahsan,   I understand your concerns.  I found the school starting age a tricky one to work out since I am not from here.   Having 3 children with 2 now in high school my advise to you at this stage would probably be to wait another year. If you feel he is struggling academically another year in primary will give him a chance to consolidate and gain more confidence in his learning.  The move to high school is a huge step and if you know him best and don't feel he is ready it may be best to hold off.  However over the next few months if you see changes in him you can always change your mind.   Hope that is helpful and best wishes.         ... View more

Sorry to hear you are struggling with your weight and have concerns about your childs as well.   It is great you are here and have identified the issues and are willing to make changes to improve you and your child's lifestyle.  I love the advise from Chalke5.  I had no idea these services were available.   Don't be hard on yourself.  Make simple changes and I am sure you will notice the affect. Less sugar and add lots of fruit and veg to your daily meals.  I really try and keep my kids off sugary drinks too. I also suggest as well as making changes to your diet perhaps you and your child could do some fun exercise together, perhaps walking , jogging or bike riding if that is something you may enjoy.   Good luck ... View more

So very true if you don't look after yourself you really can't look after others.   I love a run in the mornings usually with a few friends and my dog comes too.  Its a great way to start the day. A coffee in the morning sun is also a must!   The other thing that I am the master of is a quick nanny nap in the middle of the day( obviously not a work day!  though I have been known to dose off in a quiet corner on the odd occasion at lunch time).     And yes I like a list!         ... View more

hi @Zoesplace,   Well I am very late and this is my first time to write!!   Sorry to hear you are having these worries with your daughter and the boyfriend.  Such a worrying time when you can see that he is so wrong for her.  Sounds like you are on the right track and all I can think is how lucky she is to have such loving people around her to guide her.  You are clearly doing a fantastic job and it seems at she is actually listening to you and your husband.   I have a friend who son is in a very toxic relationship..he is a beautiful 16 year old boy who is in the grips a very stunning looking but completely self obsessed, needy and manipulative young woman.  My friend is so concerned but like you know she can only give a little gentle advise and tread gently.  I have felt tempted many times to knock her block off but it seems we all agree that in the end that is not the solution!   Have taken note of all the brilliant advise and the book.   Hope all works out.       ... View more