I saw it on TV. I think the teacher should have checked with the Principal and get professional advise with psychologist or people expert in the subject before implementing the case study. It looks like it was a non planned exercise. Not good at all!! ... View more

Yes, this is what she said to me. We are new in the state, therefore I do not have the benefit of knowing everybody. I am knowing new things everyday, but I am on top of my daughter. For example, If she is invited for a sleepover I always try to contact the adult in charge. My daughter insists that 'here" they don't use to do that. My response is "I do that so they will have to put up with me". We don't argue anymore about it, because she knows I would ask for an address and telephone number, and contact the parents. I think that "the kids offered her to have the party", but she stated that "her auntie's friend offered her place"... That is why I have just booked my first session to learn how to manage this kind of situation ... View more

Hi Beingme2017, I have had the same experience, so I decided to get help for myself. Yesterday one of my friends recommended me this forum which I am finding very helpful. I guess the best thing is to learn the strategies to communicate with teens. I have been told that when they are in their twenties is when they will start to be more reasonable!! So, a long way to go. I want to think that it will get better, I am an optimistic ... View more

Hi there are even adults, aunties or parents of my daughter's acquaintances that had told her that they let her have her party in their place!! This is just ridiculous!!    ... View more

Hi Zoesplace, yes I agree. My daughter went to a party where parents allowed to have alcohol. She said that peer pressure is so bad that it would be better if she had a drink (provided by me). After many days of deliberation among my daughter, husband and myself, we decided to give her one single drink. The fact was I normally don't drink, and if I do it would be in a dinner or special occasion. We normally do not drink. So I was not very familiar with these cruises etc, and I bought a UDL (lemon and vodka). We tasted together at dinner and we even didn't finish the can.  Then I was explaining my daughter that because we drank water in between, we had food etc. the effect of alcohol was reduced, but still is in our system. The party 's date was coming and my daughter did not decided what I supposed to buy for that party.  At the end I went to this liquor store and bought rum and cola. I did not know that this was not a good option. I am totally ignorant in this level. Anyway It worked well for me, my daughter told me she had a sip and it was soo yuck!! that she did not drink at all!!.  The thing is she saw people that was vomiting, and so wasted that it was not good. She has gone to other parties now, and she does not ask me for a drink, she also has learned that there are other kids that don't drink, some of them are designated drivers, etc. But I agree I would not host a party with alcohol.  It's not me, that is what I try to explain to her. It hurts that she does not see the point clearly, she prefers not to have the party, at the end of the day is her choice, but as I said it hurts.       ... View more

Hi I am very grateful for the support that you are giving me just now!!! I feel that I am not alone!!! I will follow my instincts and try not to feel soooo guilty! ... View more