Thank you for your response it’s nice to know you are not alone. Yes I am receiving assistance via a therapist, she is great. I question myself everyday wondering how we got here, she is one of my greatest loves we also have another daughter who shared the spotlight. I can’t explain how helpless I feel, I would give her anything however only if I thought it would actually help her all the books, post, pod casts I have invested in and I just feel hopeless and confused. It’s such a fine balance and when I have the chance I can see my beautiful girl in there we are being torn apart. We accept we are not perfect but this guilt, shame, anger, disappointment, wanting to rescue if simply exhausting. Rant over we are at our wits end I just want to save her from this misery and I can’t 🥺 ... View more

All I can say is heart break. My 20 daughter was diagnosed with bpd almost a year ago and my heart breaks everyday. I completely understand how you can get to where you have the situation at times is agonising. My daughter is not openly aggressive and especially not to me or our family but that being said I have learnt to validate before it escalates. I think she also knows that any physical violence would be the end of our relationship. Since her job ended in January I have noticed she has progressively deteriorated and she moved out last week after a minor disagreement and we are devastated and at our wits end what to do as we don’t want to enable her by giving her money but are frightened for her. It’s that saying if only love could save them we would have no issues. I can’t give up just yet because I see my precious daughter is still in there. I also understand how you have got to where you have and I wish you all the best. ... View more