Hi, Thank you for replying. I’m sorry that you are going through a tough time too. It’s really awful and you feel helpless. I’m still worried about my daughter but I’ve realised that me nagging her is making things worse. Best advice is to speak to people yourself and offload and get all the support you can for you then you can pass that support onto your daughter. Try and spend time with her even if it’s a walk, a trip to the shops, watch a film, share a hot chocolate. It’s heartbreaking to think of them being lonely so just keep checking in on her and she’ll know you’re always there for her. I’m waiting to hear about some counselling for my daughter. I think having someone who is not a family member she can talk to in confidence will help. Be strong. I know they’ll both get through this phase in their lives. Leanne x
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I'm looking for any help and advice I can get so I can help my daughter please.
My daughter is nearly 13 so I know she has a lot going on hormone wise etc but I'm so worried about how low her mood is and how often she is isolating herself in her room.
The lockdowns have intensified the isolation and since starting secondary school she has not had chance to settle into school and develop new friendships. I am very concerned about a brand new friendship that has recently sprung out as if from nowhere since she returned to school. This girl has steered her away from her other two friends and they have reported controlling behaviour from this girl and lots of nasty / belittling comments.
My daughter is very secretive and will not invite this friend round where there is a chance I will meet her. I've read the sections about negative friendships on the website and it sounds very much like what is happening. My daughter's self esteem has plummeted and she spends hours applying make up etc and trying "to change her appearance."
The school are saying they are keeping an eye on her but haven't witnessed anything.
I've tried so many times to talk to her but she won't open up to me, becomes very defensive and shuts herself away and is just in her bed constantly.
Has anyone been through similar? Thanks for reading this.
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