Thank you for your reply, it is lovely to have someone listen. It is actually difficult to explain to people because I don't want to sound like we are belittling her or like we don't love her. I do things for myself sometimes too. I like to do walking or yoga to have some time alone. At the moment usually around once a week. We haven't thought much more about the psychology sessions yet to be honest. In a way I am worried that it is just us being dramatic about her behaviour, given that the report came back with nothing significant it could be something we are doing. I also don't want my daughter to think there is something wrong with her and I really don't know what they would treat in the sessions or how they would approach it and talk to her. I will have to ask them a bit more about what they are planning. Yes it was a bit disappointing because it is a lot of money for us. I did want to do it because I thought it might point us in the right direction. They really only spent 3 hours with her in total over one morning though doing learning assessments and my daughter is really lovely and cooperative when she wants to be. How can they determine behavioural issues when she is on her best behaviour lol... We didn't think she had a learning disability though, I explained that it was the behaviour that has been really hard but they also explained that they needed to do an assessment to rule out anything first. So we agreed that would be best. Now we have to commit to spending more money on the sessions, but what if nothing actually helps? Im just really not sure what to do. I just wish really we knew how to reason with my daughter or work out how to get her to cooperate and just have a more peaceful life without the constant conflict. Thanks again for your kind wishes
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Our 9 year old daughter has always been challenging right from the get go. We keep thinking she will grow out of it but she gets worse and harder to deal with. Every little thing every day is such a battle from the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to bed. We have to fight and nag and remind her constantly but she just does whatever she wants and doesn't care about repercussions. She has emotional melt downs that are so disproportionate to the situation on an almost daily basis. We went to a psychologist who said she needed to do an assessment first which cost us $1950 and then she said our daughter was normal but might benefit from a few counseling sessions! I was totally baffled because we struggle everyday with her. Our other daughter who is 12 is completely different and while she definitely has her moments she has never been like our 9 year old. We have tried rewards and praise and nothing works. We are so exhausted. She is also constantly fighting with her sister and deliberately annoying her. Her sister will fight back and then she gets in trouble as well but she can't help retaliating when she is relentlessly annoyed. I feel like a horrible parent and she has me in tears and filled with so much guilt because I worry it is something we have done. Has anyone else experienced this sort of difficulty with their child??? I don't know what to do. The thing is she actually has a very sweet side and we love her so much. Anyone else who knows her like teachers or her friends parents think she is an angel.
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