Hi @Scoops I'm glad you posted. I don't really have any answers as such - I'm just another parent muddling along at trying to parent teens... but one thing that stands out to me from your post is that you've mentioned that you would like your family to reconnect and do some family activities, but your daughter wasn't looking at you and didn't give input into the conversation.
I'm wondering what she might have been thinking or feeling at the time? Is there anything that draws her out of her shell when it comes to conversations? For example, what do you think she would do if you were to ask for her ideas on how to improve things, or invite her to talk about what she's feeling or thinking? Would she generally be open to sharing her thoughts?
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@Scoops I'm so glad you posted here on the forums, it sounds like it's been a really hard time for you recently. Parenting has its challenges at the best of times, but it's been such an unusual and stressful time in the world - it's bound to get too much sometimes. From reading your words, it really sounds like things are too much right now - is that right?
I know you said you're safe, but it sounds like you're in a really hard space and you could use some support. Being so upset that you can't work or sleep sounds so painful - you must be exhausted. I wish someone could make you a warm drink and lift your burdens for a bit right now. Do you have any supportive people in your life who could offer a listening ear or a helping hand? Is there anything in your life that gives you joy and relief from the stress that you might be able to bring into your life right now? There are some self care ideas here in case that's useful. I wanted to ask - do you think you might be feeling depressed? There's a questionnaire here that might help if you're not sure.
It's completely normal to feel these kinds of feelings when life is throwing so many curveballs. Speaking for myself, when I've had hard times and parenting felt too much, I found talking to someone outside it all like a counsellor or psychologist helpful. Do you think that type of thing might be helpful? The government is offering extra support with counselling sessions at the moment because they acknowledge how much impact the pandemic is having on people's wellbeing. If you think it's something you'd like to look into, I'd suggest talking to your GP about accessing some Medicare funding.
I want you to know that we're here for you and we care, so please feel free to post here any time.
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