@Monkey00 welcome to the forums - we're so glad you've joined here for support.
That sounds like a really hard situation with your adult children and their use of alcohol and drugs.
I think it can be really a particularly tough thing to know how to support young people with substance issues as there are so many emotions and challenges involved.
We have some helpful information on our website about drugs and alcohol in case it's useful.
Do your children have any professional supports they can turn to? If not, do you think they would consider it?
I'm really sorry to hear you're not feeling supported by your husband - do you have anyone else you can talk to?
We're here to support you - please feel free to post here any time.
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